Advice on loving myself?

I was just watchin Tyra and its an all black episode. They're talkin about how black women are so confident and fearless. Is it really possible to be like that!? I kno there are people that love themselves.... so ite obviously possible.. But how do I get there??? What are the steps a person needs to take to really love, respect, and carry themselves well?? Have confidence, high self esteem? How do ya achieve this!?